Not All Submissives Deserve a Dominant—Some of You Belong in the ‘Untrainable’ Bin
Newsflash: You’re Not Owed a Dominant
Just because you slap the word submissive on your dating profile or OnlyFans bio doesn’t mean you’re entitled to a Dominant. Some of you are walking red flags in collars, lacking the bare minimum effort, intelligence, or obedience needed to be worth anyone’s time—let alone that of a superior Domme. In fact, half of you should probably stay on the sidelines, quietly consuming content, while the rest of us work with those who can actually handle being trained.
Think that’s harsh? Good. If this stings, it’s probably because you know deep down you belong in the untrainable bin.
Entitlement Isn’t Submission
One of the most insufferable traits of a wannabe sub is entitlement. These are the ones who show up with zero respect, zero effort, and a laundry list of demands. They think being submissive is a personality trait rather than a role that requires work. Newsflash: submission isn’t about you—it’s about what you offer. If your entire approach is “I exist, so give Me what I want,” congratulations—you’ve already failed.
The reality is that being a good submissive takes dedication, self-awareness, and the ability to shut up, listen, and obey. It’s not about expecting instant gratification because you declared yourself a sub on the internet. A true Dominant isn’t looking for someone who needs a reminder to breathe or can’t follow simple instructions. We’re looking for someone ready to be molded, trained, and disciplined—not a needy brat who thinks submission is about what they get out of it.
Effort: The Missing Ingredient
Effort is the currency of submission. It’s what separates the truly devoted from the lazy ones who think submission is just lying there and waiting to be told what to do. Spoiler alert: If you can’t even manage basic communication or follow-through, you’re not a submissive—you’re an inconvenience.
Effort means anticipating your Dominant’s needs, completing tasks without whining, and showing up ready to serve. It’s about doing the work to make yourself worthy of attention. If you’re too lazy to even respond properly to a simple message, how do you expect anyone to invest their time in you? Domination is earned, not handed out like participation trophies.
Not Everyone Can Be Trained
Here’s a hard pill to swallow: some of you are untrainable. Maybe you lack the intelligence to comprehend even the most basic commands. Maybe you think you can negotiate every task to suit your comfort zone. Or maybe you’re just too lazy to put in the work required to grow. Whatever the case, not everyone is cut out for this. And that’s fine—just don’t waste the time of someone who’s already earned their place by pretending you’re something you’re not.
A true submissive doesn’t need to be begged to serve. They crave structure, discipline, and the opportunity to be useful. If you find yourself constantly resisting simple tasks, making excuses, or needing constant hand-holding, here’s a tip: you’re not ready. Stick to reading forums, watching from afar, and learning until you’re willing to put in the effort it takes to be worth someone’s time.
Earn It or Stay on the Sidelines
If you’re offended by any of this, good—it means you’re paying attention. True submission is a journey, and it’s not for everyone. Some of you may need to accept that you’re not ready for a Dominant yet, and that’s okay. But for those who are ready to stop making excuses and start showing real effort, there’s hope.
Want to prove you’re not one of the untrainables? Ready to learn what it takes to be worth training? Then it’s time to step up, stop lurking, and get involved. Join the discussions in the WorshipSofia.com forums, read more about what it means to truly serve, and show your dedication through tribute or engagement. Because here’s the truth: